Unleashing the Power of the Dark Feminine

Dark Feminine

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It’s commonly understood that many women suffer from an internal split between the light and dark aspects of their feminine nature. It would seem society wants women to be virginal loving mothers by day and whores by night. The path of Tantra, which translates as ‘union’, is a journey into the reconciliation of this split.

The Light and the Dark

Women have been taught that their value lies in their ability to be sexually attractive to and unconditionally supportive of men as well as being unselfishly maternal and supportive of their children. Told to be ‘good girls’, to listen to authority, and that their sexuality is something we give to others rather than for ourselves. The Light or Sacred Feminine struggles to be all that she is in the world. Of course she has her gifts in her lightness, her heart is open, she’s compassionate, the caring mother, devoted wife and committed friend. However, cut off from the depth of her life-force energy, she lives a one-sided and disempowered life, unable to bring her complete self into the world.

When only this side of the feminine is developed women often tend to have poor boundaries. Having spent so many years taking care of other’s needs they often don’t know where their families or career end and they begin. Saying ‘no’ is a challenge, they have little time for themselves and if they did have a spare hour it’s unlikely they would know what to do with it.

In contrast her twin sister, the Dark Feminine, who frequents the halls of power, is free from her sister’s need to shine brightly. She has been shamed and wronged by our society, she is the whore archetype, relegated to the unconscious, the shadow, something to be considered as evil.

The Darkness of Lilith

She is Lilith, the night, an intense and fiery emanation of lunar and feminine energy. An expression of the deepest regions of the human psyche, she illuminates our desire nature and holds the power the light feminine is missing. Arising from the earth, from the mother, from matter, she holds the key to the awakening of sexual energy, of the primal life force. With her legs open and her back arched she writhes in orgasmic ecstasy, screaming out her pleasure, unashamed for all to hear.

When we follow the path of Lilith she guides us towards both our individual and collective patriarchal distortions in order to illuminate our shadows and to reclaim the power that has been torn away by the perversions of patriarchal structures, where she has been misunderstood, alienated and diminished. In her full awakened state she represents a kind of emancipation from gender limitations, a freedom and autonomy. 

Menstruation and Meeting Lilith

Many women will experience their Lilith energy in the autumn phase of the menstrual cycle, as hormone levels drop and PMT is experienced. Compelled to speak our minds, us women can isolate with our truth, consumed by the wave of emotions coursing through our bodies. Yet we are told women are not meant to have anger. We are not supposed to be anything but nurturing, and so the anger is repressed and becomes one more thing to feel guilty about.

In the struggle to accept this part of our nature, the arising Lilith energy is pushed further away into the unconscious, but as Freud said whatever is unconscious rules us. Lilith will always find her way out, in her irritation, snappy remarks, and lack of patience. She is the source of our challenges until we finally own her, when we bring her out of the shadows and celebrate the power that she has. Here she becomes our teacher, showing us what lies beneath the anger and rage, the places where we haven’t taken enough care, too busy looking after others to get the sleep, the exercise, the connections or pleasures that we need.

In previous generations our mothers and grandmothers would have guided us through the territory of Lilith, supporting us to sleep when the baby was crying through the night, giving us herbs and tinctures from natures garden. Yet this wisdom, the wisdom of the feminine, has been lost and so we are left learning how to ride the wild horse of Lilith, battered by her power and stuck in patterns of self-betrayal.

How Can we Meet the Dark Feminine Through Tantra?

In Tantra, the path of integration of the light and the dark, of the masculine and the feminine, the union of polarities. We see the integration of the dark feminine necessary not just for living a more fulfilled life, but essential for embodied ascension required for spiritual awakening.

In ancient times Tantric rituals were developed to support us on the journey of integration using the power of sexual energy, knowing it to be the most powerful energy available to us. Thankfully in the modern day world of Tantra these practices are available for women wanting to take the journey of power reclamation.

Sacred Spot Ritual

The Sacred Spot ritual is one such practice that enables connection with and activation of the dark goddess, and with all that she holds. Held in a space of sacredness with the intention of awakening the dark feminine energies. After some relaxing body work the recipient of this ritual is asked for permission to be entered vaginally Yoni (Sanskrit for sacred cave) as it’s referred to in Tantra circles, with a finger/s with loving consciousness. If permission is given the Yoni is entered slowly and with consciousness with the intention of meeting all that is there with presence.

Each ritual is unique in its appearance and process but for most women this is a mixed experience of pleasure, rage, pain, grief, joy, and any other unexpressed emotions that have been stored in the sensitive tissue that makes up the female sexual anatomy. For many woman the chief storehouse of emotion is the G-spot area, which is an area of ridged erectile tissue on the anterior wall of the vagina. It can be located by entering an upward facing finger into the vagina and making the come hither motion.

The G-spot is capable of feeling incredible pleasure, yet many women find this area numb or painful. In meeting the area with great sensitivity and love the pain can be cleared and the pleasure re-connected to.

During the ritual women can shift shamanically into states of altered consciousness, they journey, connect with ancient wisdom and reclaim lost parts of themselves and return back more embodied and more powerful.

Through integration of the dark feminine women are learning to respect and listen to their own intuitive knowledge. In doing so they are taking the first step in not only healing themselves but in healing the planet.

I offer Sacred Spot Healing sessions to women, connect with me to enquire and book. catherine@tantricawakening.org

Original article published in Kindred Spirit Magazine.

 

Comments
  • Leonie ferrer September 20, 2016 at 4:33 pm

    This is a topic that doesn’t receive enough coverage, so it’s great to see this in Kindred Spirit. So many women forget to listen to their needs and I see this across all generations. Many women believe they cannot achieve orgasm through penetration and a large proportion do not believe they can achieve orgasm at all. Would love to find out more about your sessions Catherine. What else would you recommend for women looking to meet heir inner Lilith?

    • admin September 21, 2016 at 10:02 am

      Hi Leonie, thanks for your comment. Yes sadly many women struggle with orgasm and believe it’s not attainable for them. They have sexual experiences that leave them feeling unsatisfied and wondering what all the fuss about sex is.

      I work with women supporting them to awaken their sexuality, through body-work and energy-work I support them to clear the blocks that prevent feelings of pleasure being available to them. I remind women that pleasure is their birth-right and by working with what gets in the way of that pleasure the body can open; areas of previous numbness become alive, areas of pain soften and start to feel juicy and full of good sensations again.

      When connecting a woman back to her G-spot, an area of erectile tissue on the anterior wall of the vagina, a woman can connect deeply with her Lilith nature, her power, rage, and deep pleasure is available to transform and cut through what doesn’t serve her.

      My awakening female sexuality sessions offer women the freedom to claim back their pleasure and to awaken parts of their pleasure bodies that have been dormant and to be powerful, bold and sexy women!!

    • admin October 11, 2016 at 2:38 pm

      Thanks for your post Leonie. Yes many women are unable to have orgasms either through penetration or through other types of genital touch, which in turn puts women off having sex.

      Unless there has been a major accident or surgery that has created nerve damage in the vulva then orgasm is a possibility for all women!!!

      One of the reasons why orgasm is so elusive for women is they tend to feel pressurised into having penetrative sex when their bodies are not aroused enough, so there’s just not enough energy or arousal in the genitals to build up orgasm.

      Furthermore a woman needs to feel safe so she can allow orgasm to happen in her body, she really needs to drop into surrender, and often this can be really challenging, even to give ourselves the time and space to feel surrender is rare in our over busy lives.

      Women also need to know what sexual anatomy they have, how it becomes aroused and what feels good for them. Somatic sex education is crucial for a woman’s orgasmic potential to grow.

      In order for a woman to meet her inner Lilith she needs to get savvy about her sexuality. I support this through offering sessions teaching somatic sex education, Tantric ritual – including the one called Sacred Spot mentioned in the article, and orgasmic coaching.

      Blessings and orgasmic abundance to you!
      Catherine x

  • Anna September 30, 2016 at 8:43 pm

    Thank you so much for this great article, I got goosebumps reading it! Yes! Yes! Yes!

    • admin October 11, 2016 at 2:29 pm

      Thanks Anna! It feels like your Dark Feminine is calling you to journey with her into the depths of yourself.

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